Read this if you stink at confession
We live in a culture that is really bad at confession. If you admit any culpability someone might sue your…
We live in a culture that is really bad at confession.
If you admit any culpability someone might sue your pants off.
Look the other way. Pretend you didn’t do it.
Your insurance company warns, “Even if it’s your fault, don’t say anything!”
Your lawyer cautions, “Don’t speak to anybody. I’ll do the talking.”
Look the other way. Pretend you didn’t do it. Wear Teflon so nothing sticks.
This is us:
Dodge. Weave. Avoid. Deny. Anything but confess sin.
Who wants to be a “sinner” after all?
We pretty much stink at confession.
And the high profile examples we have seen of public figures who “apologize” often seem as much about political posturing and name clearing as anything. Someone releases an official statement to the press or on Twitter so they can move on and get back into public favor. But genuine sorrow, godly remorse, fruits of repentance? Not so much.
We have become experts at saying just enough to clear our names with feigned contrition, but not so much that it might actually imply I’m guilty of something heinous.
Or we say, “I’m sorry you were hurt by that” which of course is a thinly veiled way of saying, “I didn’t do anything wrong, but I can see that you went and got all bent out of shape, so I guess now you’re making me look like the bad guy – but really I’m the good guy. I’m even apologizing. See?”
Aren’t we crafty?
Often a celebrity will get in trouble for some offensive remark or unguarded moment when something ugly slips out. Have you noticed how their carefully curated public statement often says something like, “I don’t know what got into me, that’s not who I am. That wasn’t the real me. I’m better than that.”
And I want to say, “So I guess it doesn’t matter whom you hurt – because apparently this is about you? And since it wasn’t really you, I guess you don’t really need forgiveness.” How convenient. No paint on your feet. No mess. No problem.
There’s a tendency in all of us to do the same. We minimize (it wasn’t that bad, others do worse) or we rationalize (I mean, under the circumstances, it’s understandable) or we blame others (look what you made me do!). That wasn’t me!
It all goes back as far as Adam and Eve. It’s the woman’s fault. The snake made me do it. We hide. We run.
The first cover-up was done with a fig leaf.
But self-justifying apologies don’t purge the soul or cleanse the heart. It’s a cover up.We’re still dirty.
Jesus taught us we can do radical surgery on our souls anytime we want to, cutting out the ugly and leaving only pure stuff.
We can do this, he says, when we practice confession.
What we call “The Lord’s Prayer” is recorded in two places in scripture. Each uses a different word used to describe what we are asking forgiveness from.
Matthew uses a word that is often translated DEBTS. “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.” (Matthew 6:12)
Luke records the prayer, too, and uses the word sins. Often in English it is translated TRESPASSES. (Luke 11:4)
Everyone has debts. These are our unfulfilled obligations toward God or other people. Stuff you didn’t do. You left it undone. These are the sins of omission. You meant to get around it. You wanted to do it. But you got busy. You wilted. Your heart didn’t find the way to do it and you did something else instead and failed to do the right thing and came up short.
Jesus says you’re in debt up to your eye balls. So tell God about it. “Lord, I owe a debt I cannot pay. I’m empty and poor. I am going to need some grace on this one. Can you cover me and let me off the hook again for this debt?”
Everyone has trespasses, too. That’s when you go where you shouldn’t. You cross a line, go against the boundaries of God or someone else. These are the sins of commission – something you did. When you trespass the will of God you break his heart. Every sin is a sin against God. It’s a relational issue with you and the Lord.
Confession brings us around to face the facts of our sin, saying, “Lord, I call to mind what I did, and what I failed to do. I’ve come up short, crossed a line, hurt others, disappointed myself, and broken your heart. Will you forgive me?”
Remember, when you confess your sins like this to God, it’s not as if you’re letting him in on some big secret. “Hey God, I’ve got some bad news I gotta break to you.” No. He already knows!
Confession is when you tell God that you finally see what he has seen all along.
Think about something you have been carrying around.
Would you like to get rid of it?
Confession is good for the soul.
Like the prodigal child who had run around and worn himself out, isn’t it time to come home and reconnect with your waiting Father? (Luke 15)
Let me leave you with an opportunity to pray confession now. Can you relate to the struggle and joy and then cleansing of this Psalm?
I wrote a prayer of confession which I will post soon. For now, join me in working through this prayer of confession from the Bible. Let’s come clean.
Oh, what joy for those
who get a fresh start,
whose slate is wiped clean.
because your sin is forgiven and put out of sight!
2 Yes, what joy for those
whose record the Lord has cleared of guilt,
And God holds nothing against you
whose lives are lived in complete honesty!
3 When I kept it all inside and refused to confess my sin,
my body wasted away,
and I groaned all day long.
4 Day and night your hand was heavy on me.
My strength was sapped like in the heat of summer.
5 Finally, I confessed all my sins to you
and stopped trying to hide my guilt.
I said to myself, “I will confess my sin to the Lord.”
And you forgave me! All my guilt is dissolved, and my sin is gone!